The F word

We throw it around…without a thought or judgement it’s a random blurt from our mouth, an instantaneous chemical reaction which prompts us to say the word, I positively abhor the it ….Friendship.

As a child I was a very introverted person and as a result a very lonely kid. Time moved on and I grew up I learnt that making friends was a natural thing. Slowly the making friends becomes a popularity contest and you seem to be in the midst of a tense political game which doesn’t seem to end ever again.

Man isn’t an island they say, and that he has to socialize and live with people and interact with them. Sometimes I wonder how much of this interaction is a bloody necessity and how much of it is because we want to. Is friendship a requisite for living in society or is it a tool that we use to further our lives.

In this time of such confusion we are looking for that person who understands us, who we can take our hardships to and is a ready crying shoulder. Someone we lend our hand to, in their dire time of need. The question is how thin is the line between the people we know and the people we love.

Friendship is a lot of things, sometimes it is that guy we know from our college who attends the same lectures we do and we sit together. Sometimes it’s the person we meet in the train everyday and we lend our paper to. The person who we cant go to sleep without calling or the girl that we know can never be ours and yet we want her around so we call her a friend. Sometimes it is the man we know who can get work done for us and we keep him around to split the bill with us.

Don’t you think that because there are so many definitions of the word, that the essence is being tarnished, The meaning is lost in translation from person to person. I like to call it the F word, because it has become dirtier than the word FUCK and its use has become as insulting if not more.

The harsh reality that we all keep fighting is that there is no such thing as a friend, a person who isn’t a blood relative, yet who is around for us. The fact is that we cannot invest in someone who we don’t consider our own, the word in a sense keeps the person away from us metaphorically and physically.

I know one thing that I have had my share of FRIENDS and I would rather not have anymore. What I want now are people whose relationship is thick as blood. Call me cynical but I don’t think I will meet any such people. Till then if I am an island I will make the most of it, I want to be JAMAICA